Ramadan
was great for Sarah. She actually started praying five times a
day on time. But once the blessed month is over she fears the
momentum, drive and motivation that kept her going will fade out.
Sarah is worried that this good habit might not last.
But
it doesn't have to be that way. In fact, a number of psychologists
agree that a person needs about three weeks to develop a good
habit. If you've been praying regularly, fasting, controlling
your temper, trying to be more patient, or keeping any other good
habit during Ramadan, you're almost sure, Insha Allah, to keep
up with it afterwards.
Nonetheless,
we all slip up. As well, the drive that pushes us to do good in
Ramadan is usually not as strong the rest of the year. Here are
a few things you can do to maintain the good habits you picked
during Ramadan:
1. Make Dua
It
was Allah who gave you the ability to keep the good habit in Ramadan,
and only He can help you maintain it afterwards. Make Dua that
Allah helps you not only keep the habit, but that He accepts it
and makes it a way for you to grow in closeness to Him.
2.
Make it a habit
If
you want to keep good habits, you've got to make sure they remain
part of your daily schedule. For instance, fasting. Did you know
that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged
fasting on Mondays and Thursdays? He said: A man's deeds are reported
(to Allah) on Mondays and Thursdays and I prefer that I should
be fasting when my deeds are reported (Tirmidhi).
This is a great way of maintaining the habit so you're not rusty
by next Ramadan.
Or
for example, were you extra generous during Ramadan? Well, maybe
you can portion out a set amount of your weekly or monthly paycheck
to a charitable cause to maintain the habit of giving.
Make the habit part of your daily and weekly schedule. The point
is to keep the action in practice, and of course gain rewards
from Allah.
3.
Think about your day each night
Evaluating
ourselves, our intentions, words and actions, every night is a
very good way to maintain good habits (see a sample self-evaluation
form).
Self-evaluation
doesn't only help you see where you are and where you've got to
go. It's also a great reminder of what you were supposed to do
and didn't.
Add
a question or two (or three or four) about your specific habit
into a daily self-evaluation questionnaire. Ask yourself, for
instance, how often did I pray today? What was the quality of
my prayer? Did I pray on time? etc. These serve to remind you
to keep up the habit and do better next time.
4.
Evaluate yourself weekly
This
helps you see the bigger picture. You'll be able to evaluate on
a more long-term level how well you've been keeping your habit
in practice. You can do the same thing on a monthly and yearly
basis.
For those who are really into the technical aspect of self-evaluation,
maybe you can make a graph to help you chart how well (or not
so well) you've been keeping up with your good habit.
5.
Get a friend to help
What
are friends for anyway? If you've got a close friend you feel
you can share your new habit with, let them join you in keeping
up with it and keeping tabs on you while they're at it. This will
not only encourage you, but Insha Allah, it'll deepen your brother/sisterhood
as well.
Alternatively,
look for groups where you can maintain the habit. If, for instance,
you memorized Quran regularly in Ramadan and want to keep the
habit, join an Islamic study circle focused on memorization.
6.
Don't fall apart once you make one mistake
The
beauty of Tawbah (repentance) in Islam, is that Allah blesses
us with this opportunity to return back to Him after doing something
wrong. We should remember that we are humans and that we will
err. Only Allah is Perfect.
This
is why, for instance, if we were able to pray on time all through
Ramadan, but become slack afterwards, we must realize it, seek
Allah's forgiveness sincerely, and try our best to get back on
track, asking Allah to help us.
We
should not give up trying to pray on time just because we have
missed doing so on a couple of occasions.
7.
Ask yourself WHY you kept the habit
Niyyah
or intention is a key to Allah's acceptance of our good deeds.
If we developed a habit to impress others, for instance, we may
be able to keep the momentum for a while, but most probably it'll
wear out afterwards.
But
if we maintained a habit sincerely for the sake of Allah, Insha
Allah, not only will we be rewarded for it, but our intention
will help us maintain the necessary motivation to continue to
do good.
8.
Don't expect the same results
If
you were ready to spring out of bed in anticipation for Fajr during
many of the days of Ramadan, but find yourself barely waking up
for the prayer afterwards, don't be surprised, but don't become
slack either.
Good
habits are often easy to maintain in Ramadan, the blessed month.
The hard part is doing so after the "high" of Ramadan.
This is where you'll have to work hard to force yourself to maintain
your habit, whether it's waking up for Fajr, not smoking, eating
less, being more patient, etc.
Be thankful when you're able to maintain your habit and think
about practical things you can do to keep it up on a regular basis.
9.
Work your way up slowly
Aisha
reported that Rasulullah said: Do good deeds properly, sincerely
and moderately, and remember that you shall enter Paradise only
through Allah's Mercy, and also remember that the most beloved
deed to Allah is that which is regular and constant even if it
is little (Bukhari).
The wisdom in this Hadith is tremendous and it is one way of keeping
up good habits you have picked up in Ramadan.
For
example, let's say you were motivated to read Quran for half-an-hour
on a daily basis in Ramadan. But now that it's over, you feel
sluggish, lazy and want to give it up. Yet, you had wanted to
maintain this habit after the blessed month was over.
Instead
of trying to read Quran for the same amount of time, reduce the
time period to as much as you are initially able to do, even if
it's just five minutes a day.
If you keep up this 'five minutes a day' habit, Insha Allah, you
will see the amount of Quran you read will increase slowly but
gradually, perhaps even surpassing your Ramadan maximum in the
long-term, Insha Allah!
10.
Don't give yourself the option
What
makes you get up for work in the mornings, no matter how tired
you are? What makes you drag yourself out of a warm bed on a cold
morning to get ready for school? It's the fact that you have no
option, and you know that there are negative consequences to not
going to work (you'll be fired) or school (you'll fail).
Use
the same kind of psychology on yourself when it comes to maintaining
your good habit. Tell yourself, for instance, that Allah will
be very angry with you if you do not pray Fajr, no matter how
cold your room is on a frosty December morning. That in turn can
lead to more bad deeds, which could lead to decreased faith, and
a downward spiral in your life. And Allah can punish you in various
ways in this world as well as the next for not praying. You could
lose your job; you could have a family crisis, etc.
Click
here for previous article on Ramadan by brother Sadullah Khan